THIS POST WAS WRITTEN IN ITS ENTIRETY BY Rosemary Lombardy, financial advisor, candid abuse survivor and author of Breaking Bonds: How to Divorce an Abuser and Heal – A Survival Guide [February 8, 2019].
No marriage or relationship is perfect, but if your spouse is physically abusive, or becomes physically aggressive, such as getting too close and violating your personal space while screaming, it’s time to think about leaving. Every woman should prepare a to-go bag with essential things she’ll need in case she needs to get our quickly.
Rosemary Lombardy, financial advisor, candid abuse survivor and author of Breaking Bonds: How to Divorce an Abuser and Heal – A Survival Guide [February 8, 2019], has prepared a list of items to pack in a to-go bag.
21 Essential Items to Pack in A To-Go Bag:
Your driver’s license,
Your credit cards
A list of your assets and debts
A set of clothes for you and the children
Diapers and a few toys if you have young children
Court papers, such as a temporary restraining order, if you have one
Marriage certificate and pre-nuptial agreement, if any
Social security cards
Medical and immunization records
Other legal documents
A list of important phone numbers, such as friends, relatives, doctors, and schools
Information on local resources, including your local battered women’s shelter
Journal of any verbal or physical abuse recording dates, threats, and events-start this now if you haven’t already!
“Put your go-bag in a very safe place or give it to someone you trust to hold it for you,” suggests Lombardy. “Keep the driver’s door to your car unlocked in case you need to escape in a hurry. Make sure you have gas in the tank and keep a spare key hidden inside your car in case you don’t have time to grab your key chain before leaving—or in case your husband takes away your keys. When you leave, grab jewelry, pictures, and other items of value if you have time, but leave them behind if staying longer jeopardizes your safety or that of your children.”